The fact of the matter is, however, that it's really none of my business. Just because something seems logical to me doesn't mean it is logical to someone else. And, even if I wholeheartedly disagree with a choice someone is making, it's not my place to say anything (unless they are hurting themselves or someone else)- especially when my opinion is unsolicited. It's not my choice; it's not my life; it's not my business.
But, it's especially hard not to intervene in the parenting methods of others.
I hate nothing more then when I am scolding Gavin, and ten other people are yelling at him at the same time. I get defensive, and I usually say something like, "I can handle this, thank you." To me, it's an insult. I feel pretty capable of parenting my child, and I parent him on a daily basis, so the one time you're around, I don't need you to help me discipline my child. I got it. It drives me absolutely insane.
The problem is that I'm also a hypocrite. You see, when I see someone's kid throwing food all over the floor and spitting it out on the table while the parent messes around on a cell phone (oblivious to all that is happening), I really want to put that kid in a timeout (and slap the parent at the same time). When I see other children misbehaving, I have the overwhelming desire to discipline them, especially when I feel that the parents aren't taking appropriate action (and by "appropriate" I mean what I think they should do). Because, you see, I've managed to keep my child alive almost four years now, so I must be a Super Expert Parent.
Just the other day, I put my sister's kid in timeout for supposedly hitting her sister. My sister was right in the room while I just charged in and took over. I have to give her credit for not killing me because I might have killed her had the roles been reversed. As soon as I did it, I thought, "Oh god. I can't believe I just did that. I would've have flipped out if she had done that."
So, I'm going to vow (and try really hard) to just keep my mouth shut when it comes to other people's children - unless my advice is solicited. If it's not my child, and it's not directly affecting my child, it's not my business. I parent the way I choose to parent, and I expect people to respect that. Consequently, I need to respect other people's parenting choices whether I agree with them or not. I'm going to try to get down off of my high horse and "live and let live." Wish me luck!